Taking your children out is always an adventure. Will they be on there best behavior? Will you be able to enjoy yourself, or is it just going to be about watching them? Do you relax your rules or do you stay steadfast to your disciplinary plan. This may sound like I run a military boot camp, but I strongly believe that the way children behave when they are not in your home or even under your supervision does reflect on you. Why do you think kids love going to there Grandma’s or Auntie’s house because there they can run wild without anyone saying anything to them?
This weekend I went over to my girlfriend’s house, with the whole gang, my daughters and husband. They don’t have children, so it’s fun for them to interact with my girls, it’s like they have a new toy. It’s the first time I have ever been to her house and I was worried that my daughters, especially my lil’ lady would as I like to say “Show her ass” which means show her true colors and run a muck in my friends brand new apartment. It’s funny because before when I went to someone’s house I looked at there stuff and enjoyed how everyone has different decorating styles, you take mental notes of what you like, you ask questions like where they got those fabulous decorative pillows. But when you have a child and you go to someone’s house all you think about when you look at there stuff is “wow that looks expensive”, “where the hell am I going to find another one of those”, “I hope that nothing gets broken, I can’t afford to replace that”, “Cha ching, Cha ching”. They want you to feel so comfortable that they act like it doesn’t matter that your daughter just spilled juice on their new rug, or that she is running back and forth from room to room touching You wonder to yourself do they really mean it’s ok that she wrote on the sofa that I just got a week ago or do they just want to make you feel comfortable.
My question is when they tell you that it’s ok that your child is doing these things that normally you try to prevent, do you politely disagree and continue disciplining your child or do you let the rules go out the window and give your child a get out of jail free card. I really don’t know what to do in these situations. I tend to over discipline when I am out and about with my child because I don’t want anyone to say “her daughter now that girl is too much”. So when my friend was like girl leave lil’ lady alone she is fine let her play, I wonder should you just let them be, do they really know what they getting themselves into, do they know that giving this child a free pass leads to drawing on the walls, castles made out of all the pillows on the sofa, a non stop marathon of “kung fu panda”, they can’t possibly know.
My daughter is well behaved for the most part, but she is two years old, she will test the limits especially when she is in a new place. I do try to feel comfortable when I take her out to someone else’s house and I try to let her get comfortable, to a certain point, and when well meaning friends try to issue the get out of jail free card, I smile and nod and look at my daughter with the look, she knows I mean business. I do relax my rules to an extent, I mean I do want my child to have fun but I also want my child to value others. So I pose this question to all, when is it ever ok to issue the get out of jail free card?