Me: I can't believe that 10 years ago today we got married, how time flies, its crazy, how have you been able to put up with me?
My dude: I ask myself that everyday, I must be a saint!!!!
OK, so maybe I walked into that one... but really that is what he said!!!! This past weekend the dude and I had our 10 year anniversary as Mr. and Mrs. Dude!!! LOL
We really don't do anniversary celebrations or exchange gifts, we do acknowledge the day but that is about it. But this one was different not just cause it was our 10 year one but because of all the new things happening in our lives it feels like these next 10 years are going to be filled with so many new things. We recently moved to a new state, we quit our jobs, up rooted our little family and set forth on starting a new. So far so good. Everyone seems to be adjusting well. It's weird I never really saw myself moving to another state, always considered myself the quintessential Bronx girl, but in reality I had never really stepped out my comfort zone, I never really just took a leap and tried something new. Now of course when I decide to jump I choose the biggest cliff but hey why not!! We have a great support system here and everything seems to be working out!
Back to my dude! Its crazy 10 years ago, we decided to make the commitment and get married, we were so young 23 and 24. We had no clue that within 10 years of marriage we would have 3 kids and an even stronger bond. It's crazy to think back at how naive we were. Next year we make a total of 20 years together as a couple, I often get asked for marriage or relationship advice. I hate giving advice because every relationship is different but what I do always tell people is that no matter what kind of relationship you are in, to make it work, it means you have to work at it. EVERYDAY! It's hard work! Nothing to be taken lightly. You have to make the conscience decision everyday to make your relationship work. It's a living thing apart from you and your partner and you have to nurture it. The dude and I have been through our share of up and downs, but at the end of the day we both want the same things, we both want to make this thing we have work, so we work towards that one main goal and it been working so far! (now that is enough of me acting like I am Dr. Phil)
So last Saturday, we got the night off by our in-laws as they stayed home and babysat our Terror squad and we went out exploring our new town. We went to the mall and did a little shopping and then we went out and had dinner. Kind of weird to have a meal that you don't have to share with a 5 or 3 year old, but it was nice to go out and be just a couple again. We promised to try and do that more often. We tend to forget that we need our time to ourselves, with three small children, they kind of monopolize our time. But our relationship needs more mommy and daddy alone time!!!
I have to say, and it's not just cause he may read this when I am done, but I think when it comes to husbands, I didn't do so bad in that department. I mean when you find a man that is so sure of his manhood that he can carry all your bags through the mall while you shop and helps you pick out clothes I think you got as they say "Winner, Winner, chicken dinner"